In a previous article we spoke about Bridesmaids’ duties before the wedding event, you can find it here (http://sayidoinperu.com/blog/bridemaid-pre-wedding-duties/) al our tips.
Here we try to figure it our what are the bridesmaids’ duties for the actual wedding day, what are the specific tasks you should perform if you have been asked to be a bridesmaid for your friend’s wedding and you have no idea of what you can do to help and support her on this special day. Think of it about the ultimate checklist for Bridesmaids’s wedding day duties.
So after supporting the bride during the wedding planning process, the wedding shower and wedding side-events your job hasn’t finished yet, there is still the big day with the wedding ceremony and the reception to go. So be ready to be there for the bride! Here a list of duties for the wedding day:
- Try to keep a calm and happy atmosphere among the other bridesmaids and the bride throughout all the day: this is extremely important since your friend will need your emotional support on the wedding day, remeber that she will be nervous!
- Try to be on-time for the bride’s hairdresser and make-up artist appointments, it could be at the saloon/spa or at her house or ceremony venue, but be there on time.
- Prepare an emergency kit for the bride; this should include tissues, lipgloss/lipstick and other make up she might need during the day for a touch-up, a sewing kit in case of last minute dress retouches or for any wedding dress problems may arise, quicksilvers are also essential in my experience and very practical. Also, include in the kit some basic remedies, such as aspirin. It is important to be prepared!
- Do not forget the snack and a bottle of champagne for the bride and the other bridesmaids while you’re getting ready. This is very important also for creating a relaxing atmosphere before the ceremony.
- Get dress and ready before the bride to help her into the bridal gown. This is one of the nicest moment for the pre-wedding photography session, so make sure that the photographer is there to document this special moment.
- During the ceremony keep an eye on the bride’s veil, it should be placed in the right way (depending on the veil usually it could go on a side or in the aisle) for the photographer to take great pictures. Seat in the front by the bride’s side and be ready for the procession back out at the end of the ceremony.
- Be prepared with the wedding party to enter the reception area right before bride and groom once you are announced. So do not get lost during the cocktail hour, nobody wants to look for you in that moment and bride and groom won’t be eager to wait for you!
- You might need to give a speech after bride and groom arrival at the reception venue, this actually depends on the bride’s choice. So be prepared for it and have your speech ready before the wedding day, considering that this day you will probably have no time to organize your idea and write down something. You can note down on a piece of paper your ideas or on your cellphone, or just memorize it. It is up to you!
- Try to be the soul of the party and make sure that all the guests are having a great time! So, once the music kicks in, start dancing on the dance floor, so that people will join you and the party will easily start. Also try to mix with the guests and make sure that people are entertained. This will help bride and groom to relax and have fun.
- Help with any surprise you prepared for the reception and party time, any entertainment show, special dances, flashmob, etc.
- Help with the newlyweds exit at the end of the reception gathering the guests outside and have the car ready for them to go away.
So bridesmaids to be, we hope that this article can help you have your duties clear and be a real supportive rock for the bride during her special day!
So you’re happen to be a bridesmaid for your upcoming best friend’s wedding and, a part of being honoured your friend’s chose you, you are already freaking out about what you have to do before, during and after the wedding day? In this article we tried to make your life easier and to list all the duties a bridesmaid has to performe before the wedding event. More article on bridesmaid’s duties on the wedding day will come soon! So do not worry. Think about this article as an ultimate Bridesmaids Pre-Wedding Duties Checklist!
- Help with the bachelorette party and bridal shower planning process. Sometimes bridesmaids are also required to help paying for it. If you are a group of more people, you can simply split the cost of the events. Usually the Maid of Honour is in charge of the planning process and the cost, but a hand would definitely be useful to her. So, offer your help! Help the Maid of Honour to find a location for the party, help with decorations, organize surprises for the bride-to-be, help coordinating any special activity and game for the party, keep a record of gifts received so that the bride-to-be will be able to send proper thank you cards to the guests. Also, if you are planning to go somewhere else and have a destination bachelorette party or bridal shower you can help with flights, hotel coordination, restaurants bookings, among others.
- Help with all the other pre-wedding events, such as rehearsal lunch/dinner, picnic, cocktails, any special activities the bride wish to include in her wedding week. And obviously attend them and show up on time!
- Buy your bridesmaid dress, shoes and accessories (even if you hate the color palette the bride chose. Just do it!). Sometimes the bride offers to pay for them or a part of them, but try to be clear on this from the real beginning to avoid any akwardeness. In my experience, bridesmaids pay for their dress, shoes and accessories and the bride pays for their hair, make-up and nails on the wedding day, and eventually a test few days before the big event. But, as I told you before, try to be clear on this from the beginning. Also, if you have to order the dress, accessories and shoes on-line, keep track of the weeks left before the wedding and make the purchase on time. Especially because you might need an additional week for last minutes seamstress’ changes and alterations. Plus, you do not want to face any delivery delays, that can create big wedding drama! If the bridesmaid has not her dress ready for the wedding day, the bride could be very upset…and you want to avoid this!
- Go wedding dress shopping with the bride-to-be. This is a very special moment for her, who will love to share it with the dearest people in her life. So do not miss it! She will probably bring her mom, her sister and mother-in-law as well. So feel proud to be there for this big decision. Also help choose the bridal accessories and do a bit of research on the latest bridal fashion trends, it might come in handy.
- Buy a wedding gift! Just log into their wedding registry and buy something they would love it, even if you would probably be overwhelmed with the planning of the pre-wedding events, do not forget about this important thing! Sometimes bridesmaids can opt for cumulative gift, a big one for instance. Just talk about it with the bridesmaid’s squad and make the decision together.
- Be the bride’s support for all the wedding planning process. We all know that planning a wedding could be extremely stressful and overwhelming. Try to support her and be posite even in the most difficult times. Additional costs, suppliers issues, last minute problems with guests’ cancellation, important decisions to make can be very stressful moments for the bride, so be there for her! Show her empathy and make her feel that everything has a solution and do your best to help her solve any issue arised.
This is only a list of pre-wedding bridesmaids’ duties, so stay tuned for the upcoming article on the bridesmaids duties on the wedding day!
Sometimes, picking the bouquet could be an issue! Don’t know what to do or what to choose? Don’t worry, here I give you some useful tips that you better keep in mind while planning your wedding!
A main element you should consider before picking your wedding bouquet is the style of your wedding celebration: will it be romantic, bohemian, rustic, classic? For example if you choose a rustic wedding, the perfect bouquet must include colorful wildflowers and twine, if you choose a romantic wedding, you can use white and light pink roses and for a bohemian wedding you can use an eye-catching bouquet with field flowers, feathers, leaves, branches and spikes.
Another tip to picking the bouquet is the height of the bride; you don’t need to use a big or heavy bouquet if you are not tall, try to find a bouquet size according to your height.
The way you going to carry the bouquet, the size and shape are very relevant, we can choose between classic bouquets, cascade bouquet, round bouquet, posy, etc. for example if you want to take it very relaxed you can chose a classic or posy bouquet.
You need to know that the bouquet is one of the most important accessories for your wedding, so be sure to have everything quite ready before picking the flowers for your bouquet because this needs to be in line with all the other elements of our wedding (dress, decoration, colorpalette, centerpiece, etc.)
Picking the bride’s dress is certainly the biggest choice you have to make for a wedding celebration, but after it you need to start thinking about your bridesmaids dress. The general rule is: buy your bridesmaids dresses after you bought your dress and you selected the venue and the date for your special day. Venue and date are things you should have already set before shopping for your dress as well, as I say here: http://sayidoinperu.com/blog/2017/05/06/tips-for-choosing-the-perfect-wedding-dress/
The aim of this article is to give you some useful tips before picking bridesmaids dress:
- Look at your dress, the style and the silhouette of your dress, as well as the color, the texture and the details. Your bridesmaids’ dress should definitely fit the vibe of your dress. There should be some sort of connection between the bride’s dress and the one of her bridesmaids. For example if your dress is a boho/vintage style, your bridesmaids cannot ware an eccentric gold and sparkly dress or a very formal dress.
- As you should have done before choosing your dress, always consider the date and the time of the wedding. A black long dress is not a good pick for a spring or summer midday-wedding celebration, or a hot pink short dress for a fall late night wedding. So always keep in mind that every season has its colors and every time of the day has its dress etiquette as well.
- Your bridesmaids are your best friends so you should know them very well and know what they like, what they do not like, what they would wear and what they would never wear in their life. So always keep in mind their preferences before making the choice. Also, it would be good if you could include them in some way in the final decision. Flexibility is a great skill you should show here, as well as being understanding.
- I am sure your friends are beautiful to you, but let’s be real, not all your bridesmaids will have the perfect body to fit any kind of dress, there is always a very tall one, or a very short one, one with broad hips or a tiny waste, etc. So pay attention to all these details and try to find the dress that can perfectly fit them all and most importantly that can allow them to feel good in it for that day. Your besties will have to smile a lot and to take thousands of photos with you, so let them be comfortable at your wedding! Something that could be done in this situation is to use the same fabric and tailor different dresses for your bridesmaids depending on their silhouette shapes. You can use a mix of lengths and necklines for example.
- Try to match the color you are going to pick for bridesmaids dress with your wedding color palette and take also in account that bridesmaids have flower bouquets that need to be matched with the dress. So keep in mind that too!
- Accessories them! You should pick a nice necklace, or a cool pair of shoes that can all wear that day. This will look very nice on your wedding photos.
- Set the budget with your friends. Do not assume that your bridesmaids have plenty of money to spend on your wedding day and set a specific budget for it and let them agree on the cost.
Latest trends are using different kind of textures in the same colors for bridesmaids that works for informal wedding. For a very formal wedding it is necessary to use the same fabric for bridesmaids dress and in my opinion it would be better to have also the same dress silhouette for all of them. Other trend is to use different shade of specific color, for example shades of blue, or shades of green, this is a very common tendency lately, and I have to admit that the perfect combination of shades can look amazing!
Flower bouquets apart from being the perfect complement for a dream wedding have a great importance for brides, and they are a detail you should never overlook. When bride is going down the aisle guests will look at your bouquet for sure, so choose it carefully and most important try to stick with your wedding color palette while choosing color and shape of the flowers.
They have been used as amulets since ancient times, so the choice of a specific flower, a specific color or shape has a meaning, such as purity, good luck, joy, happiness, etc..
Here are some bouquet options from our brides, each one has an important meaning for the bride who chose it.
For a vintage wedding we suggest delicate flowers in light pastel colors, such as light ping, light orange and blue. Pink roses are perfect for romantic weddings, especially mixed with white ones. This kind of bouquet is perfect for sophisticated bride.
If you want a glamorous wedding red roses is what you really need, better if combined with green foliage. As you know bouquets can have very different shapes, what do you think about a cascade red rose’s bouquet, like the one in the picture? We actually loved it!
If you want to stick with traditions, you can just go for a classic white roses bouquets, round style! This is perfect for a classic wedding!
Photo credit close up: Maik Dobiey – Marco Nishiyama